04.06.05

I get back to the house last night, made the addendum to yesterday's entry, and checked my e-mail. Surprise! There was an e-mail from my father.

Seems that my ex- "He has a very serious relationship and expects to get married in July. Problem is... his fiancee is allergic to dogs." My ex-(who's remained friendly with my father and his wife) wondered if I'd like our basenji back in my life.

First, I'm happy for my ex- and his intended. I hope that he learned something from our marriage that'll make this second marriage work. Little things like; not calling his other half stupid every day, not taking a dump every day while his other half takes a shower, trust, realizing that this person is a separate person, not being manipulative and over-controlling...

Inshallah, I hope it works for him.

I am a bit nonplussed about the whole dog thing. All of the sudden the fiancee's allergies are an issue? What do they do now? There's a part of me that knows, just knows, that it's my ex-'s way of letting me know that he's getting married--like a child screaming, "See? I'm not a failure. I'm getting married." I suppose if it makes him feel better to let me know, that's okay.

In the end, however, my father said that he and his wife might adopt the dog. I said that, even though my opinion has no bearing on what my ex- does, it'd be nice if my father adopted the wee beastie.

Men. Oy.

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